“But, if I change it…..it could be upsetting to some people. I don’t want to be remembered as the one who changed everything and messed it all up.”
Oh my heart. When I heard this bright and vibrant, creative, and smart young woman say these words a few days ago, it hurt my heart.
Which probably is surprising to those who know me well.
I’m all about traditions. It’s kind of my thing.
Change not so much.
My Daddy used to say be careful of doing something around me–if I liked it, it would become tradition, and then there was no getting out of it.
He was pretty much right. I love the traditions of watching the Macy’s parade all the way through Santa waving, our Easter Egg and Turkey Egg Hunts each year, and doing things the same year after year in honor of the way it’s always been done.
However, and I’m pretty sure I can remember my Mama saying this, “Just because it’s always been done a certain way doesn’t mean it always should be done that way.”
In other words, the world needs change.
From time to time anyway.
I think about how things would be very, very different in our world if no one ever looked at changing anything. I mean, all of the best inventions and ideas came from folks thinking of how to change something…..for the better.
Yes. I just said that.
I love traditions. I love the old ways of doing things sometimes. But you also won’t see me out washing our clothes “by the crick” or on a washboard. Neither will you see me sit down and longhand all of the stories I want to leave behind. Or do my own butchering or bathe just on Saturday nights.
Some changes are really, really good. Like cars and airplanes and cancer research centers and museums and new ways to eat healthy. Or learning how to educate children with learning barriers. Or how to help people who have lost limbs walk again. Or opening doors to people which have always been closed before. Or loving others who were thought unlovable.
Change can do wonderful things.
And yes, I said that too.
So, my young friend, think it through and make your changes. Some will be well received, some not so much. Some will work well, and some might not. But the thinking and dreaming and trying to change things–those are so important for us all to grow and learn and become better and better.
May we all be able to open our hearts to dreaming and changing what we can. What do you feel like changing? May you find the courage and strength to make it so.
Love to all.