My phone rang early this morning. I had it set on vibrate but I could hear it echoing in the drawer I had left it charging in overnight. I picked it up. Mac.
I breathed a sigh of relief. He usually comes to Daybreak around the time for Sister Circle on Tuesdays to visit and catch up and get (give) a hug and share a fist bump with Cooter. But yesterday he wasn’t around. I asked a few folks, and no one had seen him recently. It was the last pretty day before some lousy weather so I was hoping he was just enjoying it and that everything was okay. Then someone mentioned they’d heard he was in the hospital but they couldn’t remember…..was it two weeks ago? Or two days?
It took me a moment to clear my throat and say Good Morning, I was so relieved. He had been working on rain and cold-proofing his camp yesterday, as best as he could. He apologized for missing seeing us. He’d gotten so busy, and when he looked at his watch it was 4 p.m.–almost time for Daybreak to close up for the day.
I understood. Time flies. It happens to all of us.
He said he was going to hang around the shelter this morning and then walk several blocks over to eat lunch at the soup kitchen at a local church. This is no small feat for him. He struggles to walk even short distances most of the time, as his knees can give out on him. Even sober, he looks wobbly when he walks. As it was rainy and the roads were slick this morning, I asked if maybe there would be a shuttle to take everyone over. He said no, they didn’t have such as that. “I’ll walk. I do it most days anyway,” he said.
Turns out he had been in the hospital. On Sunday evening. He was having seizures again. That happens if he doesn’t take his medicine. And without insurance and a regular doctor, he doesn’t have access to taking his medicine regularly.
When he started having the seizure one of his friends called 911. An ambulance came and picked him up. Instead of taking him to the downtown hospital or the one just a little ways up the road from where he stays, they took him all the way across town to the hospital on the north side of town.
“What?” I asked. “That’s all the way over near Wesleyan.” I cannot imagine what their reason was for that. It can be a twenty minute drive on a good day.
“Yeah, that’s where it is. They discharged me at 7 p.m. Sunday evening, but since it was already dark and I didn’t have anyway to get back to my camp, they let me stay in the lobby. I left about 7 Monday morning and started walking back.”
“You walked all the way across town back to downtown?” I was blown away.
“Yeah. It took me near about all day, but I did it.”
Y’all. I can’t even.
We talked about some resources that could be available to help him get his medicine prescription regularly, so I hope that will get better for him, and that he will be stay on the medicine, warding off future seizures.
Then he changed gears.
“Hey, I know God is good and everything, right?”
After everything he’d just told me and he was still singing praises? Okay, I had to hear this.
“Well I was at the terminal the other day, right, and I walked by a trashcan and in it was a brand new pair of shoes. In the box. Can you believe that? In a trash can?”
“Wow, Mac, that’s amazing. Were they your size?” Here’s where I am, I’m expecting that they pinch his toes slightly or they flap around a little but they’ll be fine.
“Yep, my size exactly. Fit perfectly. And it was a good thing, because them other ones were starting to fall off my feet.”
Oh, ye of little faith sister.
My friend was thrilled with his shoes and he trusts that God meant for him to have them, to find them there in that trashcan. After we hung up with his promise to meet me next week, my mind’s eye kept playing back to a moment yesterday. I was driving across the Spring Street bridge before Sister Circle, and I saw Mac’s best friend, JJ. He was walking along the edge of the bridge, carrying a bag from McDonald’s. When I told Mac I’d seen him, he laughed and said he hadn’t seen JJ in a while, and that the bag was probably empty. I asked why and he just laughed it off. I guess that’s a story for another day.
As I saw JJ in my memory, my heart asked my head a question I still can’t answer.
Why would God give Mac new shoes and leave JJ out hustling for food over near the bridge?
I don’t have an answer, and I’m not sure I’d like any that anyone offered me. My heart says it’s not so sure that those shoes were from God. I have something that I have said a lot lately, it seems. Pardon my grammar, but here it is:
Sometimes it just be’s that way.
Sometimes someone who needs something happens upon something they need. Sometimes they meet someone willing to help. And sometimes, more times than I care to think about, they don’t. They wind up eating out of the Pizza Hut dumpster out back–“folks throw away a lot of good food, you know”–or they beg for money so they can buy a burger. Or a beer. The burger fills the void in the stomach. The beer makes you forget that void and all of the others. For a while anyway.
The thing is that I am glad that Mac thanks God for those shoes. I would not take that away from him for anything in this world. I just don’t know that I can bear to believe that kind of theology in my own life.
Very recently there was an accident. Two vehicles. One person was killed. The other one was in critical condition and just recently was discharged to continue healing at home. In a conversation about how awful the whole thing was and how prayers are needed and how wonderful it is that this person who could very well have been killed is home now, someone said, “Oh Someone had His hand on him.”
I wanted to cry. And cry out. Where was that Hand for the person who was killed? Why put a Protective Hand on one and not on the other? God, what is all that about?
And again, the only way I can find my way out of that heart-wrenching question and answer and guessing game, is to say, “Sometimes it just be’s that way.” I’m sorry, I just can’t believe that God chose one over the other.
Anymore than I can believe that God chooses for one child to be born healthy and another to be born with a life-threatening disease. Or that God chose to take my Daddy, whose healing was prayed for by so many loving friends and strangers, “because He needed him more than I did” and left other people here to live. Or that one dedicated, faithful student could be in a hospital bed fighting for her life but God “protected” the other student who chose partying over studying.
I just can’t wrap my brain around theology like that.
“Sometimes it just be’s that way” is a lot easier to accept.
But then again, I think my Aunt is probably right on target when she tells me with regards to all of these mysteries, “I think we are all going to be surprised.”
And for a cold, wet, and rainy Wednesday, that will have to do.
“Why I Am Not Blessed” https://imightneedanap.com/2013/05/17/why-i-am-not-blessed/