Today a wise friend shared with me this sage advice that someone shared with her.
I am a script writer from way back. For as far back as I can remember I have plotted and played out in my mind how something should/could go. I don’t know when it started, it’s just what I do. When a twist or turn happens in life, the wheels immediately start turning on how to bring it back around. How to fix it. To incorporate the “plot twist” into where I wanted the script to go. Ummm, yes. And then it inevitably happens.
I get disappointed.
Because sometimes (and only occasionally, mind you) it’s not all about me.
And sometimes it’s someone else’s issues and choices and I just need to let it go. Because no amount of script writing on my part can change someone else. And when I forget that and think it can, I set myself up for the disappointment.
Why do I do that to myself?
I am thankful to know that I’m not the only one. And to realize that, as my Mama would say, “This too shall pass.” Most likely my disappointments and hurt feelings won’t kill me. Yeah, they knock me for a loop, but it’s not the end of the world. It might feel like it at the time, but more than likely, it’s really not the end.
I found a great story of another person who is a script writer, and it’s so funny, she actually recycles scripts–those from movies. She took a trip to IKEA and had it all planned out how it should go. It was supposed to be so fabulous. And of course it was not the movie theater/happy ending experience she had hoped it would be. That she expected it to be. She too shared the bit of advice my friend shared with me. And then she shared this little tidbit:
I think it’s wonderful to know that while disappointments might not be fun or taste really great sometimes, they most likely will not kill us. Check out her blog here. It’s a delightful read. And I highly recommend reading it when you are suffering from disappointment or have a refrigerator with only baby carrots in it. Her story is the spoonful of sugar that Mary Poppins sang about.
Tonight I wish for us all some joy and laughter and a friend to remind us to let go and that it will be okay…..eventually. A friend to have our back and to bring us baby carrots when we need to be reminded of the light and laughter in life.
May you continue to have merry memory-making! Love to all.