I just closed the door on a chapter of my life. A very long chapter. The why’s and wherefore’s really aren’t important, but here’s what is.
I’m a scriptwriter from way back. I like to “write out” how something will go down, who will say what, where they will go, and how all of this will affect me oh so wonderfully. Ahem. We all know how that kind of thing can turn out. Or not. Even if you send a memo letting folks know how they should act, it doesn’t always go the way you plan. Or I plan. And so on.
The thing is that even though this chapter is closed, I don’t trust that it really and truly has. It has been a part of my story for such a long time. And I can’t let it go.
But I have to. This chapter will always be a part of my story. It will always be a part of how my character developed and continues to develop. However, this now closed chapter does not have to be the ending of my story. I can choose better over bitter, joy over fear, forgiveness over anger, grace over revenge (and all of the related clichés). In other words, I can choose to MOVE ON.
I have friends who are in the midst of closing chapters or starting their next ones. I wish for them the resources to do what must be done to get them back to a safe place–mentally, physically, and emotionally. Safety and well-being. And trust. Trusting the old chapter really is over. Trusting that if characters or the hard emotions come back around from that chapter that she can handle it. Trusting that the people around her can handle hearing her story. Trusting that she is enough and that she will always be loved by those in her life whom she values the most. That’s what I wish for them. And for me. And I think in a nutshell all those things add up to peace. That’s really what we all need the most I think. Peace, inside and out.
And one more thing. I did not see this ending coming. And even though the chapter that so needed to be closed didn’t have the ending I thought it would or could or wanted it to have, it did end. It is over. That’s what I really want to share. If you are in a situation and don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel yet, turn to those you love and let them love you through it. More than likely they will. I bet you will be surprised. And my other point is this–it may not end the way you imagined or hoped but the end of this hard chapter will eventually come, and then you will have a fresh sheet of paper and you can begin again. You will need to call on every resource you have–especially loving friends and family, but you can do it.
I saw this sign in Target. (so just ignore the clearance sticker and focus on the sentiment, please) I thought on this a lot. Is it true? As I walked away from the sign, I thought, “Well if it said, every day you get a second chance, then I could argue with that. There are just some things you don’t get second chances at.”
But as I read it again tonight, I love what it says. Every day is a second chance. And I think it’s true. Every day is a second chance to rewrite our own stories. To have them make a difference. To close the chapters that need closing or get help so that we can. Every single day is a second chance to seek and to do. And I think that is the best thing I’ve heard all day.
Here’s to closing chapters that need closing and the folks that love us through that journey. You can do it, as hard as it may be. Just know the next chapter will be that much more beautiful because you did. Love to all.