Okay, truth? I didn’t want to write this post. There are others bumping around in my noggin, jockeying for a chance to come to the forefront and have their stories told. But this one? I just had no choice. Why?
Because It’s All My Children Have Been Talking About. For Days.
During our summer adventures we had weekly trips to run errands with a huge side helping of fun with friends of ours. As this was not our average “run to the grocery store” trip in length, my crew was very happy that their friends brought along their electronic game players and two to share. They could all play the same game together (I have no idea how), which made it really fun. So much so that my oldest pulled her game player out for the first time in a long time so she could play along. That was lots of fun to listen to from the driver’s seat. The laughter was near about intoxicating. Happy children often makes for a happy Mama.
So I guess it’s only natural that the littles have decided that they want game players of their own. They have gone through every possible scenario in their minds–big sister will give us hers and she will buy herself a new and better one, we will each get one for our birthdays, we will each get one for Christmas. And then being assured Aub wasn’t letting go of hers, and deciding that Christmas was too far away, they decided to save money for it.
They’ve asked me if they can do things for pay. Our Princess carries her change pouch EVERYWHERE just in case we are somewhere that she could purchase this name brand electronic contraption for a song and a dance and probably $2.52, all in pennies and dimes. But mostly pennies. It has been interesting to hear the planning and plotting of my two littles. For one thing they are getting along. That has been REALLY nice. They are problem solving and working together.
A snippet of tonight’s conversation:
“Mama she (Princess) said she’d buy the games and cases if I (Cooter) buy the devices. Isn’t that a good idea?”
“Well, buddy, sure, but where are y’all getting money from? You have no money.”
Princess piped in. “Yes we do. I have my purse and I have been saving money FOR THREE YEARS. And he has his school bus bank.”
“Yeah,” said Cooter proudly. “I have about one hundred and three cents!”
Yeah. That sounds about right. Don’t judge, people, money skills are next semester.
After explaining to him that the total was only about a dollar, I found myself looking at an undaunted child. They are determined. Another snippet:
Princess: “Hey Cooter, if you come keep me company, I will buy the devices and let you buy the games and cases.”
“Okay.” And off he went. Happily.
Oh my. I got no idea y’all.
But it works. They haven’t fought about anything really since joining forces. Well except for him taking apart a Lego minifigure that she’d built. But that is so minor it hardly counts. It has been really nice. And when they put their heads together and come up with what they think is the perfect plan, they clap and get so excited. I confess I look forward to hearing each new plan.
So what do I do? Should I be upset that they are pretty close to obsessing over these things or should I admire their dogged determination? I don’t want my children to become electronics junkies. We’re already headed towards that path. (But is it really a problem if they are begging to watch Gilligan’s Island in the car? Really?) I have to limit their screentime and then work on not sitting in front of one of my own so much. Easier said than done.
On the other hand, I know part of the reason they want their own is that they want to capture some of the fun and adventure of the time they spent with their friends this summer. Riding up and down Highway 247 in the van, playing all kinds of games. Together. And that’s the other thing. Their greatest excitement about getting these devices is that they can play the games together. And that does make me happy. That my children want to be together, play together. That is huge. The fact that they are all piled up in here with me right now, snuggled together looking at a book, talking about their favorite movies, and laughing together…..that is more than I hoped for. Getting along, yes. Wanting to be and do things with each other, priceless.
I don’t know whether they will wind up getting their devices, and if they do, I don’t know when. But I do know that I will savor every minute of listening to them all planning and talking and having fun together. The joy of just being together. The gift that lasts a lifetime.